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Back to the Forum Archives It seems that women over fifty can have children. There is only one hook that was mentioned in this news item. They have to do it with someone else's donated eggs. Most women don't produce their own eggs at that age. I am convinced that is because nature understands these women are too old to care for children. However, it seems the doctors do not understand that. The entire discussion was about the medical risks to the woman involved. All they were talking about was the risk to the woman. There was one doctor featured in the piece. He stated his position on this issue of safety. He said, there is no reason to automatically exclude women over fifty. That made me angry. I insist, there is a reason. There is an ethical reason to exclude them. Here are my questions about the ethics of this insanity. Who is going to care for these babies? Even if the mother is still alive, where will a sixty year old woman get the energy to look after a rambunctious six year old kid? What about when the kid is fifteen and the woman is seventy? Who will attend these children's highschool graduation? Who will send them to college? Who will be a grandmother to their kids? This is beyond selfish. It is beyond megalomania. It is psychotic in the extreme. It is pure insanity. The doctors who support this insanity should be expelled from the profession. Child abuse is implicit in this behavior. These people have completely ignored the ethics of the issue. They have made it entirely about the woman's health. I insist it is not about the woman's physical health. It's about the emotional health of the child. There is something very tragic implied in this. They are saying forget the kid who will grow up an orphan. Forget that he will have a rickety old woman in place of a mother. Forget that when he is older, he will have no one, no mother, no grandmother. All of this nonsense comes out of the "My Baby!" mentality. Think about what that phrase means. My Baby! Why do you suppose these women want a baby? Is it about love and care giving? I submit that it is about ego and nothing else. These women want a baby to reenforce their own ego. They want a plaything. To them the baby will be a possession, an it. They want it in the same way that some women want a diamond ring. It will be proof of their personal power. What will happen when the kid becomes not a baby and has needs, demands even? What will happen when this rickety old woman gets tired and stressed? Will the kid get one up-side-the-head? Will the kid be repressed, suppressed, mistreated? I think we can count on that. Women who have children for the wrong reason, are bound to mistreat then, if only through carelessness. When the woman becomes stressed and tired of her new toy, it is likely to be more than carelessness. It is likely to be intentional child abuse. This is child exploitation in the extreme. What we have here are spiritually unconscious women who give birth to children and then treat them like pets or possessions to support their own egos. If the kid grows up at all he will be as dysfunctional as his parent or worse. I will suggest that, just because I can, is not a good reason to do anything. It is especially not a good reason to bring a new life into this world where millions of children are already malnourished and starving. I will suggest that bringing a new life into the world is not about the creation of an ego status toy. It is an awesome responsibility. Even a young vigorous woman should pause at the thought of that responsibility. For a doddering old woman to deliberately give birth is nothing less than mindless selfishness. There is no doubt an instinctive emotional drive in women to bear children. We can stipulate that. However, like all other emotions, that drive must submit to the realities of our situation. We can and do control our emotional urges out of the logic of our personal value system. Even children can do that and they do. We expect them to. I believe one should think long and carefully about bringing new life into the world. We should examine our motives mercilessly. My own motives come out of my personal value system which includes a deep regard for the rights of other individuals. Regardless of how most people treat them, children really are individuals with inherent rights. Therefor, to bring a child into the world with the knowledge that I would not be able to care fo it would be unconscionable in the extreme. When we come down to it, it is really about our spiritual values. Either we are spiritual people and believe in human rights or we are not. If we use children in any way, our actions say we do not believe in their rights. Hence, we are not spiritual people. We are no different than the other animals. Evie:
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